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Relationship Minimalization – Scheduled Social Events

People may think badly of me for this post. But I’m not trying to be popular. I am trying to be happy.

Sometimes people complicate our lives much more than our possessions do. Eliminating all interaction with people isn’t realistic. But choosing who you spend your time with, will make your life easier and more enjoyable.

Regularly scheduled social events: bowling league, dart league, poker nights, scrap booking groups… .

I think everyone should have hobbies. Something that allows them to do what they enjoy and are passionate about. If you can get a group of people together that enjoy the same activity, then it is even more enjoyable. But what happens when it is no longer fun?

Ask yourself, do you enjoy the activity and the people as much as you did when you first started? Have schedules changed in your life, that makes it difficult to get to on time? Are there certain people, exs or screaming kids that just make these events miserable? Are you going just because it is expected of you? Is it time to make a change?

Try this, tell everyone that you need a month off. You don’t need to give them a specific reason. There is no need to make up a lie or an excuse. Just be vague. After a month decide for yourself if you missed it. If you enjoyed this regained time back in your life more than the actual activity, then you need to quit going. If you miss it terribly and think the positives out weigh the negatives, then show up the next night and just resume as normal. No harm, no foul.

But if you give up one activity and you enjoy your life a little more, then it is worth it.

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  • Thank you for this. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately as I realize the most important thing for myself to do is relax, take things slow, and enjoy life. I would love to do many activities (I have too many passions) but doing all of them will easily wear me out. Yet, it’s easy to feel guilty about saying no. Taking a month off is a great suggestion!

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