A lot has happened in my life in the last year. At the age of 40, I was ending a 13 year marriage. I was suddenly living on my own, responsible for everything and back to a single income. To be honest, I wasn’t ready. So many things were going wrong in my life. More than I can or really want to list. My regular routines were irregular and my emotions were emotional.
To make matters worse, I had moved to a new city several years before to start a new job with a big consulting company. I knew no one in the town. Sure I had a few co-workers that I would go to Happy Hours with but there literally was no one that I considered a close friend within 300 miles of me. No one I could talk to or just hang out with.
I also did all of the moving myself. Forty or fifty round trips in my “spacious Civic hatchback” and then hired a moving company for the items that I couldn’t haul myself. You never realize how much you have accumulated in your life till you have to pack, move and then unpack it. It was crazy!
After unpacking the required items at my new place, I still had a hundred boxes full of random stuff. I soon found that I no longer had enough furniture to hold all of these items I owned. So they sat in boxes scattered all over the house. Constantly reminding me that I needed to do something with them.
Then the money part of my life kicked in. Between the deposits for utility services, Internet/TV service, groceries and all the little things you never think of, I was broke. I didn’t have the money for several of my bills. I just had to pay late fees on them and wait for my next paychecks.
I was overwhelmed and stressed out.
Since my home Internet service wasn’t installed yet I sat in one of the corners of my rental house that apparently was in range of a neighbor who had an unsecured wifi connection. I “borrowed” the connection on my work laptop that had a wifi card in it. I decided to not check my email, facebook or other reminders of my life. I thought it would be better to search the web for a solution to my problems, rather then dwelling on the things that got me to where I was.
I found an article that really spoke to me. The title was “How to Summit Life’s Everyday Mountains“. There were some really simple concepts that were wrapped around a mountain climbing analogy in the article. Like:
- Take one step at a time
- Listen to the experts
- Save some energy for the trip down
- Getting to the top is optional. Getting down is mandatory
- Failure is a part of the process
It was amazing how much of the article really applied to my situation. I spent a few hours on the site. The Start Here page on it the was very helpful. I eventually ended up at several other related sites and was amazed at the passion and the happiness that came through in the writing of the authors. Suddenly the idea of becoming a Minimalist was very appealing. So much so that over the past few months I have made some really dramatic changes in my life and I am much happier now because of it.
Starting this blog was important to me. I have tried several times to blog about technical topics (work related) and have always failed miserably. But this topic is a little more exciting. So I promise to post often with content that will hopefully make a difference in someone else’s life. Just like the content on Leo Babauta’s site, did for me.
Leo Babauta’s book A Simple Guide to a Minimalist Life is inspiring.